Ron: Coming to Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry (BSSM) was a last-ditch effort to save our marriage. We had been “stuck” in our relationship for years, and that’s how we were when we started at BSSM.
Many years ago my construction business deteriorated, and eventually I lost it. I had leveraged property we owned and took out loans against our home to try to save the business-all without Nancy’s knowledge. When she eventually found out, her trust was betrayed. We were now in huge financial debt and a bigger struggle in our marriage. Our dreams and desires were killed, and it looked as if the rest of our lives would be spent trying to survive. There was no hope of recovery as the debt was just too big. We spent seven years in this stuck state, and I adopted a survivor mentality of just trying to make it through.
In 2013 we visited our daughter who was a first-year BSSM student. We attended some of her classes, went to a conference called Power and Love, and were exposed to a culture of hope and restoration. When we returned home, we sensed God was calling us to do a “time-out” in our lives. Reset, restart, refresh were the words He gave us. We decided to do something radical and drastic to reset our attitudes and postures toward life. Although our marriage was still in a bad place, we decided to come to Bethel to study at BSSM. And I slowly began to desire and dream again.
Nancy: Even on our way to Bethel, we were very “ugly” to each other. We had become gurus in counseling, conferences, and the like, but nothing had worked. I told God that if this didn’t work, we would just lead separate lives, as there would be no other hope for change.
Initially we were growing individually and getting a lot from school, but we were not growing together. Then several God-orchestrated events happened over the course of three days. We had made it a priority to go to another course, Love After Marriage (LAM), and one day God made a way for Ron to have an appointment with a local counselor named Justin. I didn’t think anything was going to change, but after their meeting, something finally did.
Then, through LAM, we were led through a “spiritual connection” time where the Holy Spirit revealed lies and helped us see the truth. Although Ron left angry and feeling as if everything was his fault, he also felt that healing was happening. The following night we had dinner with another couple from LAM. They asked about our experience, and Ron was honest, sharing that he wasn’t in a good place and was angry. The husband of the hosting couple offered to pursue this with Ron, and he led him through another spiritual connection. Again, Ron felt a shift after that night.
The following day happened to be when we had set a meeting with our school pastor, Young, and his wife, Hannah. We shared events of the past days and the struggles we were still having. Young stopped us and said they wanted to do something “crazy” with us. He was officiating a wedding the following week, and he had the vows with him. He wanted us to do something as an act of faith: repeat the vows and go through the wedding ceremony. So we did! Hannah, his wife, declared over us that God was saying this was “a new start, a new beginning.” We made declarations to start the journey together from then on, changing our focus to common and joint dreams, instead of leading our own lives. We vowed to go after what God had for us as a married couple, and we experienced a breakthrough.
Something spiritual happened in that act of faith of renewing our vows. Afterward, we went out and had a nice dinner, spent time together, and had a mini honeymoon! Ron wrote out a marriage certificate and presented it to me in front of our whole school group.
The God of the impossible restored our marriage!